Broken Success

Success. Everybody says they want it. That’s the point of our lives, right? To be successful. Get a good education so that you can be successful. Get that good job and make money to show how successful you are. Wear the right clothes, attend the right schools, live in the right neighborhoods. All to show outwardly that you’re successful. But, what’s going on behind all that supposed success?

Here’s a truth that I’ve discovered: broken people can live outwardly successful lives.

A person very close to me was a recovering drug addict. She had cleaned up her life, got married, moved to a better neighborhood, earned her certification as a surgical tech, and got into nursing school. She and her husband even bought a house, a nice new van, and a dog. It looked like she had turned her life around.  It looked like she was finally living a successful life. What no one could see was the brokenness behind the facade. The doubt, the insecurity, the fear, the unresolved hurts.

It’s no wonder that the facade finally cracked.

If we don’t do the work to repair our brokenness, success will not last and/or will bear some tainted fruit. What’s tainted fruit? Ask the kids living in the home with the parent who is a teacher by day and a mean drunk by night. Ask the wife of the successful businessman who is on a “business trip” with another woman.  

People have asked me why I don’t focus on career coaching or executive coaching and my answer is simple: none of that will last or matter if you don’t address the brokenness in a person. My hope, for all my clients, is that you become whole. As your whole, authentic self you can step into your purpose and know that what you build will last. As your whole, authentic self your definition of success changes.

It doesn’t mean you won’t still have the house, cars, jobs, and such. What changes is the force that drives your decisions and your actions. What changes is the value you place in those things versus yourself and your loved ones. What changes is that you approach life from a position of wholeness, not brokenness.

What would you do and who would you be if you didn’t have anything to prove?