Check Yourself

Time for Reflection

At your annual physical, one of the questions your doctor may ask is “have you noticed a difference in __?” We’re told to do periodic self examinations so that we notice any changes. It’s one of the best ways to detect any major health concerns.

At work, we’re encouraged to do a self-assessment to gauge our development, progress, and areas for growth. These self-assessments help us move forward in our plan for advancement.  

Yesterday, I was frustrated because it felt like my day was out of sorts. In fact, I had felt out of sorts all week. When I finally took time to evaluate and reflect, I realized that I felt out of sorts because I had compromised my mornings. Instead of making my morning time non-negotiable, I had allowed appointments during that time.

How often do we conduct a self-examination of our decisions? How often do we make an assessment of our lives?

Initially, it didn’t seem like an issue. I was doing a good thing, right? I was making myself available to the people who needed me. After a few days, I began to feel more tired and less focused. I began to feel like I didn’t have a clear direction.

In my moment of reflection, the truth I discovered was that my days were not directed because I was no longer mastering my mornings. I was no longer writing, reflecting, meditating, and setting my mindset before taking on the day. The deep work wasn’t getting done!

Why had I been so willing to give up my sacred mornings? Because deep down, I was afraid that if I didn’t make myself available then I would lose clients. Boom!! That was operating out of fear and scarcity, not abundance. It was wrapped in a bow of “serving the needs of others,” so I didn’t recognize it.

No matter where we are along this journey in life, stopping periodically to check ourselves is critical to long term success and fulfillment. Assess the why behind your decisions–or indecision.  Examine how your those decisions are playing out in your life. And then, adjust.

You can only be truly accomplished at something you love.  Do not make money the goal. Instead, pursue the things you love doing and do them so well that people can’t take their eyes off you.  All the other tangible rewards will come as a result.

Maya Angelou

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